Let’s get into this with some context.
**I have very monogamous morals, and belive that the person you choose to have sex with should be the person you spend your life with**
Ive been dating this girl for around a year, and before that we were best friend for like 8 months. Basically our lives are super intwined with each other.
She had a problem with flirting and still associating with guys who ask for nudes and so forth. Eventually that lead to an event back in June where I caught her full on sexting with some guys a few hours away. She said it was nothing and claimed it “was because I didn’t give her enough affection”
Fine, I looked past that and kept dating her. She agreed it wouldn’t happen again
We’ve set rules that during breaks, we wouldn’t do anything with other people and still act as if we’re in a monogamous relationship
Around a month ago we took a break, she went to a different city during that time but we still had constant contact. Once she got back we agreed we wouldn’t want any more shenanigans and put the past behind us. I gave her an opportunity to tell me if she’s done anything with people, I asked a few times and she said no.
Cut forward to last night, she got into a fight with a close friend in our group chat, the close friend stated “so that’s why you cheated on Calvin in (city name)*
She denied it, so I belivied her, until I pushed a little bit. She later admitted to playing “spin the bottle”. I called bullshit on that’s all that happened. She then confessed saying she drove the guy (who she sexted with in June) home, he asked to touch and play with her tits, that happened and that about really all I know of the situation. Once again she says she regrets it.
Second offence, she sent nudes during this break to a guy I’ve had full of fist fights with before, and who she “thinks is disgusting”.
During this whole situation she caught herself on multiple lies trying to tell me nothing happened until she cracked, said nothing else happened then turns out more things happened.
i don’t know what to do, I’ve invested a lot into this relationship, like a lot.
TL;DR - Girlfriend sexted with guys back in June. Forgave her. During a break (with context of still being monogamous) she let one of the guys she sexted with play with her tits and I assume other things. She lied about it multiple times until she cracked.